Caring for yourself and others affected

When someone uses alcohol or drugs in a way that has a negative impact on their life, the people around them can be affected in many ways. Family, friends and colleagues can find themselves in very stressful situations; emotionally, socially, financially, and physically.

Living with other people’s problems can be hard.

• Work out where you stand; this will help you prepare yourself for situations that may occur by thinking through how you want to respond and behave.
• Each of us is responsible for our own behaviour; don’t accept blame for how someone else behaves.
• You need to look after yourself, especially if there is a risk of violence or abuse. Make sure you know who to contact and where to go for help.

It is important that family, friends and colleagues know there is support available for them. Keep going until you find the help you need. Call the Alcohol Drug Helpline (0800 787 797), they will help you find agencies and people who can offer you support – there are confidential, compassionate, caring people available to help you.

Children especially need help from adults in finding the support they need when their lives are affected by someone else's alcohol or other drug use. If you're able to, offer to help their parent/caregiver to do this, or offer your help directly to the children if appropriate.

Many people have found it helpful to get support from people who have been similarly affected by someone else’s alcohol and other drug use. Knowing what others have gone though can help you in your situation, just as sharing your experiences and knowledge can help others in theirs.

The Alcohol Drug Helpline has a range of resources to help people concerned about someone else, including the booklet “Living Well” which explores strategies for the family and friends of people using alcohol and other drugs. If you would like a copy, please contact the Helpline on 0800 787 797.